Interesting questions, yes we foresee always one reference flow for a product system, in line with the "functional unit" concept of ISO 14040.
Lamp disposal is of course not really a benefit thus typically also not a functional unit. If you want to address the full life cycle, you could create one process that has as output: 1 life cycle lamp xyz, with inputs from production, use, disposal.
I don't understand though why you are producing 5 lamps but disposing only 1?